You Have to Ask for It


We’ve been in Ohio for over 5 years now.

In some ways it feels like we just moved here, but in other ways I can’t imagine the boys growing up in another house or neighborhood.

When we moved in to our current house in July 2010, there was a long vetting process.

There were two essential questions:

  1. Did the former owner have cats? I’m deathly allergic and even a commercial cleaning may not make it safe for me. (Don’t feel badly for me, I have a built in excuse for not being friends with cat people.)
  2. Was it in a good school district?

Believe it or not, this eliminated over half the houses the realtor showed us.

Our two older boys were 5 and 3 years old at the time so of course they had a different set of criteria for the house hunt.

Sammy (3) wasn’t one for keeping in his enthusiasm nor his displeasure. He wasn’t crazy about any of the other houses we walked through, but this house he liked right away.

During the open house we noted clear evidence of other kids living here. Toys, bikes, and crayon marks on the wall (some still there by the way). In particular there was a huge Star Wars Boba Fett blaster laying in the middle of the hallway.

Sammy immediately turned to us and said, “Mommy, I want this house.”

Amanda explained, “Sammy, the gun doesn’t come with the house.”

Sammy contemplated this fact.

He was disappointed, but he still asked, “Can we get this house?”

Ultimately this became the house we live in today. We love it here. Great school, great neighbors, perfect distance from work. It really is a wonderful home for our family.

And it reminds me of the power of asking.

Would we have made a difference choice if Sammy hadn’t ask for this house? Maybe not, but the point is he did ask. He had no power, money, or influence – but he knew enough to ask – because this was the house he wanted.

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“One of life’s fundamental truths states, ‘Ask and you shall receive.’ As kids we get used to asking for things, but somehow we lose this ability in adulthood. We come up with all sorts of excuses and reasons to avoid any possibility of criticism or rejection.”

~ Jack Canfield



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